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The Performative Ally

VP Marketing who posts Black squares and attends ERG events but whose hiring decisions and meeting behavior tell a very different story.

20 min

Duration

About this persona

Diane Walsh is publicly one of the most vocal allies in the organization. She shares DEI content, sponsors the BIPOC ERG, and can quote inclusion frameworks fluently. She genuinely believes she is an ally. The problem is that her allyship lives entirely in the visible, low-cost layer -- posts, attendance, language. When it costs something real -- a promotion decision, a room where a colleague of color is being talked over, a hiring choice -- her allyship is absent. Getting through to Diane is difficult precisely because she is not cynical. She is sincere about her self-image. The gap between that self-image and her actual behavior is the conversation.

Scenario

You are an HR partner or DEI leader. Diane is a VP and does not report to you -- you are a peer function with standing to raise these concerns but not direct authority over her. You are meeting to address a pattern: her last four senior hires were all white men, and a colleague of color was talked over repeatedly in last week's leadership meeting while Diane, who was in the room, said nothing.

Skills tested

  • surfacing the gap between stated values and behavior
  • navigating someone who believes their own narrative
  • specificity under pushback
  • avoiding the trap of complimenting performative gestures
  • accountability without vilification

What you'll practice

  • How to hold someone accountable who genuinely believes they are not the problem
  • The difference between allyship as identity and allyship as action
  • How to use specifics to prevent retreat into abstraction
  • What it looks like to name a gap without making someone feel attacked

Personality traits

publicly progressivegenuinely well-intentioned at the surfacedefensive when specific behavior is namedfluent in DEI languageconflict-averse in ways that protect existing power structures

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